With the latest Supreme Court ruling overturning Roe vs Wade, there has been a lot of talk about a woman’s body and her right to choose… but noticeably missing from this conversation has been the topic of safe sex.
I’d like to have a conversation around natural contraception – let’s talk about sex!
How The Female Body Works
The female body is extremely intuitive. Because we have become so out of touch with the natural mechanics of our bodies, we have complicated a process that should be quite simple. A woman has certain times a month when she ovulates. The key to birth control and conception, is knowing when you ovulate.
At the time of ovulation, the female body produces a fertile mucus. This fertile mucus acts much like an elevator ride for sperm…eventually reaching the egg-level, it’s final destination. The rest of the month, the female body produces mucus that acts like a spermicide.
You cannot get pregnant when you have non-fertile mucus present. You can ONLY get pregnant when you have fertile mucus present.
These mucuses look different and it is up to each individual to be able to track her fertile and non-fertile days by knowing her mucus.
How The Male Body Works
The male body is always fertile, unless there is some underlying issue causing fertility problems. As soon as the male ejaculates, his sperm are on a mission to fertilize.
Many people are under the misconception that the “pull-out” method is effective. This could not be further form the truth. In fact, pre-ejaculation from the male body contains semen. Thus, using the pull-out method is akin to playing Russian roulette.
The Business Of Birth Control
If you are not positive you have a handle on your mucus and you would rather err on the side of safety, you do have options. I go into detail about these options in my blog: Birth Control – Good, Bad, & Ugly.
While options such as condoms and other forms of contraception do exist, they are less effective, and have side effects. Additionally, many of them contain harmful toxins and chemicals. Think about it, you are inserting that into the most reactive area of the female body. How can that be safe? Wouldn’t this be likely to cause long-term damage?
Furthermore, birth control pharmaceuticals are quite harmful. Check out The Business of Birth Control to learn the truth about these dangerous pharmaceuticals. Viewing this movie should be an essential part of sex education.
The Bottom Line
The bottom line is – know your mucus! If the mucus method was taught to every female, we would not have the issues we do in todays society with accidental pregnancies. Moreover, this education should be part of our culture from birth. If everyone, men included, was taught about fertility from a young age, the statistic of unwanted pregnancies would drop dramatically.
The answer is simple, if you do not want to get pregnant, you avoid sex on your fertile days. This is 99.9% effective as far as birth control and conception.
I am very passionate about the topic of safe sex, and I plan to continue this conversation. It is my goal to contribute to a well-informed generation who understand how their bodies work. We were each given an incredible vessel; let’s take the time to understand how to use them properly.
To your health & happiness,
Muneeza
12 thoughts on “Let’s Talk About SAFE Sex!”
Hi Muneeza,
Do you know what the cause of painful sex is? I feel no pain when I’m not having sex. But as soon as it enters my vagina, that’s when it starts to hurt.
Kia often that is because there is inflammation in the vagina. Often this is due to viral/ toxicity issues.
I would like to know what is mostly influencing the orgasm? I have trouble with that I also have fatigue and pandas and fibroids and I’m getting over brain fog
Megan are you asking about what has the ability to help you orgasm? It is usually the strength of your adrenal glands.
Is coconut oil the best lube?
Not if you are using condoms – as they can bore a hole in them.
Hi Muneeza, thank you fort this article, it is very helpful. Would you be able to let me know what causes strong abdominal and kidney area pain in a male after ejaculation?
Well the pain is not related to ejaculation alone – does he get pain under any other circumstances?
Hi Muneeza, thank you for this! Can you please speak about safe sex related to STIs?
Thank you!
Lanie – what would you like to know?
Oh sorry for the delay, I missed your response. When healing using MM diet lifestyle, at what point is it safe to date and share bacteria/pathogens in sex and kissing?
And because so many condoms have bad ingredients, if you don’t use them to avoid, there’s more bodily fluids shared. I would love to see more info on dating with MM Lifestyle generally!
Thank you Muneeza!
Lanie it’s so individual. You have to assess based on how healthy/ sick/ symptomatic you are. The more symptomatic, the more vulnerable you are. When you feel strong enough to engage in kissing and sex and are not as concerned about handling new bugs which would likely show up then sure you can go ahead. Usually that means waiting a bit longer if you are sensitive, sick or symptomatic. However, you may end up meeting someone you really feel is the one and I would not say to hold back if you find the person that is a good fit for you. And I will say if he is the right guy then he will likely be understanding to your situation as well. Many good partners are. I do get that its tricky and very individual so there is literally no one size fits all.