I KNOW the toll that chronic illness can take on your body. I’ve been there, and I know that the exhaustion that comes from unending pain and sickness is overwhelming. I also know that suffering from a chronic illness causes emotional pain, too – for you and also for your loved ones.
Because of your illness, do you find yourself feeling angry? Whether it’s once in awhile or it’s constant, are you angry that you:
- Miss out on your favorite activities?
- Miss spending time with friends and family?
- Feel exhausted and sick all the time?
- Have an illness that feels like your body is turning against you – or that someone TOLD you your body is attacking itself, only later to learn that is not even true?
- Feel that it’s not fair that you are always struggling?
- Why you’re the only one who has to eat and live differently while everyone else can eat what they want and feel fine?
- Spent thousands of dollars and your life savings on trying the next best thing, to find that it did not help you really feel better?
- Having to constantly explain yourself to others, who cannot understand why you eat the way you do, or worse, make FUN of you?
I can tell you that it is understandable to be angry at your illness. You’re right – It’s NOT fair that you always feel fatigued and hurting. It’s frustrating to give up activities and hobbies because you just don’t feel you can do them. Having an illness can be very isolating, and you have the right to be angry.
However, I want to help you channel your anger in a healthier way. You see, while it is important to be in touch with your feelings and be aware of them, dwelling in negative emotions can have a negative impact on your mental and physical health. While it is okay to feel anger, it can create toxicity in your body. It can make your current health problems worse, by creating adrenaline and cortisol that feeds underlying viruses. Yes, did you know, the most toxic substance to our bodies that feed these viral bugs, is our own toxic adrenaline?
It’s no secret that having constant feelings of anger or stress can worsen health problems like:
- High blood pressure
- Digestive problems
- Clinical depression and anxiety
- Heart disease
- Weakened immune system
- Worsen any underlying pathogenic condition, whether viral or bacterial
Anger is not just getting mad. There are many descriptive emotions connected to anger. There could be resentment, bitterness, irritability, frustration, or even hatred. This is important to know because all emotion is experienced on a spectrum. And the word E-motion means energy in motion. Anger is one of those emotions that has a lot of energy attached to it. If you think about yourself feeling angry or watching someone who is expressing anger, they want to MOVE, or SHOUT, or get physical. Anger is an energy that makes you MOVE. Have you ever had a response from someone on facebook and thought, OMG I will show THEM? You write and your fingers start flying on the keyboard? Again, your anger is making you move. It’s an energy that commands movement.
But what if you did not express anger through shouting, moving or getting physical towards others? What your anger tells you is that something needs to change. The movement created by anger is a movement towards change. And this is the key to creating the most benefit and beauty out of this energy. Anger creates tension in our bodies. And in the presence of tension, we will keep acting, until it is relieved. Sometimes shouting at someone will release the tension in your body so much that you will feel calmer afterwards. You may not feel good about yourself for shouting and the recipient of it certainly won’t feel good either, but you did successfully relieve your tension.
What if I told you there were more constructive ways to channel anger and to relieve the tension it creates? You could try some of the following for immediate relief of tension, that will not create hurt feelings for other people:
Moving your limbs:
- Working out
- Digging in the yard
- Chopping wood
- Playing an instrument (my favourite)
- Hitting pillows in your room or on your bed
- Allowing yourself to scream (make sure you are alone, or others in your living space know what is going on, or go to an isolated place in nature)
Moving the energy mentally:
I know that my anger moved me to take CHARGE of my health. It got me to read, educate, change my food habits and start talking to people about what I was doing and why. And when people questioned me, my anger would help me find a response that would get my point across and still have them be able to hear me.
Anger holds TREMENDOUS power. Anger happens when our boundaries have been crossed and we feel a violation. And the MOVEMENT that anger brings is a movement to change something in your life to protect yourself from the violation of those boundaries.
When I learned about the power of anger, I started to use it successfully to fuel much of my life’s work, relationships and projects in as positive a way as possible. It has caused me to act on things I would never have acted on if I did not realize what I could do with its powerful energy. For a long time, my anger was destructive and it destroyed my life, my health and relationships. And it was only once I understood that it could be used constructively that I was able to use it to change my life.
Here is the first thing I started doing before reacting with anger: I would say out aloud. I am angry. I am pissed. And I ask myself the following:
- What boundary was violated?
- What was disrespected?
- Why are these feelings coming up? (This took years to become aware of, for me. Don’t be hard on yourself if it does not work for you in the moment – most of the time, people will get it after the fact, hours, days or weeks. It is only after years that I am immediately aware of it, even before I react).
Next, if I needed to move the anger, I would do one of the things I listed above. And once I was clear, I would go to talk to the person involved about what created my anger. With my health, on the other hand, there was no ONE person involved. I felt like I had been lied to my whole life, by the WORLD. Everyone, society, family – lied not because they were lying on purpose, but because they did not know better. I felt disappointed and angry. So because there was no one person involved in the area of my health, I channelled my anger into learning EVERYTHING there was to learn about my health and getting better. I have read over 600 books in health, I have studied websites and talked to professionals and doctors, I learned as much as I could. I started to apply it to my own life and saw massive changes. I know for a fact, that if being sick did not make me completely pissed and angry at life, I would never have built up the energy in my body to MOVE into the ACTION of changing my life. If I did not have a life circumstance that I needed to shift, I would not be here today.
I know some of us suppress our anger so much that it can turn inwards, towards ourselves. This turning inwards of anger is the most destructive way of handling it. Most of us do not do this on purpose. It is a subconscious action. If you have not allowed yourself to feel anger because of the stigma society has created around expressing strong emotion or if this was not ok to express in your family, then your first step will be to unlock this anger and give it its fair voice and allow it to move you. The reason we can suppress our anger, often is because it is too scary to us to truly feel it and for others to witness it. But anger is powerful and if not channelled the right way, can really bury our true purpose in life.
I also want to note here, that not everything in my life is fuelled by anger alone. Anger is the flip side of passion. There is a lot that i am passionate about in my life. I have moved through my anger issues and learned to use the energy of it in a constructive way and it has opened me up into my passion. Many of us don’t even know what we are passionate about, but we DO know what makes us angry. So for a lot of people using anger as the starting point is the easiest way because it is so accessible to us.
All is not lost, however. There are many, many ways to shift emotional energies and I am about to share some with you below.
I love how Anthony William, Medical Medium has brought from Spirit of Most High, easy to use meditations to help us clear toxic emotions. As you clear toxic emotions using these tools below, or by doing energy or emotional healing work, you will find it is easier to channel the energy to CREATE the life you desire and to heal your body.
In his book, Medical Medium, Secrets to Chronic and Mystery Illness and How to Finally Heal, there are a few meditations that help with releasing toxic emotions. One of them is the Collecting Stones Meditation. I highly recommend you start with this one if you are struggling. I also like to call in the Angels to help with my work and my favourite one for this topic is the Angel of Restitution. She can help you recover from emotional trauma and resolve deep seated issues. My all time favourite meditation though, is from Anthony’s blog, the Healing Moon Meditation. I love the moon, and I regularly love looking at her. So this meditation was right up my street. It is easy to do and is SO powerful for releasing toxic emotions. Please note that these meditations don’t cost you anything. They are free for you to use how you wish. If you do need deeper support with emotional healing, please do find a practitioner who can help you.
Here’s the Healing Moon Meditation that Anthony William has not shared in any of his books yet:
“This wonderful meditation cleanses the mind of poisonous thoughts racing through a busy mind and clears toxic emotions stored in the heart. To start the meditation, you must reconnect with the moon. Each night, or as many nights a week as you can, gaze at the moon for five minutes. If you’re not able to do it for that long, even doing it for 30 seconds will be helpful. You can first orient yourself to the wonder that is the moon and spend a moment appreciating it. It’s helpful to generally be aware of the moon as much as possible. Know where it is and how it’s magnetic force can help you heal and hold more light. As you stare at the moon for a few minutes or as long as you’d like, know that it is clearing your consciousness of weeds. The weeds are the toxic thoughts, emotions, and stresses that are stored within us, influencing the decisions we make, the thoughts we think, and the feelings we experience. These weeds also affect our faith, trust, and compassion, and the more weeds we have, the harder it is to navigate our way through life in a way that’s in our best interests.
The moon doesn’t have to be bright or full to do this meditation. You can sit or stand. All you need is to be able to see it and experience an intimacy with the moon for those few minutes.”
You can read further about it in Anthony William’s blog here where he shares more insight about this Healing Moon Meditation.
To learn more about tools for emotional wellness, including how to let go of the anger in your life, I encourage you to visit my Facebook page here .There, you will find an online community of people who have been where you are and are working to heal. I tend to livestream often from my Facebook page and in the next few weeks when I go live on Facebook, I will be sharing some ways to help heal and let go of anger, pain, and frustration. I share about different powerful modalities to shift emotions and energies and tools you can use for free at home to help you if you are not able to work with a practitioner.
Please join me on a mission to allow your anger fuel you (not destroy you) and embrace life with more gratitude and love.
Remember YOU CAN HEAL and YOU WORK FOR GOD, words from Anthony I live by. And our tiniest seed of faith guides us deeply on the path to creating our best life and healing our sick bodies .
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I loved reading this article. Just what I needed right now. Thank you Muneeza!
I am so glad you enjoyed it Sarah.